Chitra- one of the upcoming Bengali films talks about love and how the lovers overcome the obstacles of society to make their love work. Today is Valentine’s Day or the day of love. We have with us the actress who has breathed life into the character of Chitra, Pujarini Ghosh. The actress spoke at length about her perceptions of the day and her plans. Excerpts…
Priyanka Dutta, Sholoana Bangaliana– Having grown up in Kolkata where Saraswati Pujo is the Valentine’s day per say.. Did 14th Feb really have any significance in your life?
Pujarini Ghosh– To me Valentine’s Day had more significance I would say. Saraswati Puja just was Saraswati Puja to me. The only difference is you get a holiday on Saraswati Puja and not on Valentine’s Day. I am a very, very romantic person. I never had an affair when in school but I was very clear that I have to pamper myself on this day. It is you who is responsible for all your happiness. I would gift myself roses, chocolates and what not. I used to play all romantic songs since morning. Yeah, it is very filmy and too much to some but that’s me.
How has the perception of V-Day evolved with age?
Well I believe as we grow up our thoughts, our wishes clash with reality. And you actually find that the concept of love or relationship or liaison what we see in movies is not what happens in life actually. Why do you need just one day to celebrate love? I want to love everyday and in every way possible. But with time things have changed. I see too many broken relationships around me. And when I see this I really question the importance of having just one 14th Feb. So I would say that yes it is just show off now. I don’t find people celebrating love with honesty. Honestly, over the last few years Valentine’s Day has only meant buying those red hearts from Archie’s!
How was this day celebrated amongst school friends (when in the 11th-12th standard)
It was crazy! School students are very influenced by the Bollywood-ish style of celebrating Valentine’s Day. But there is a lot more innocence in that. There was fear that we will be caught by our parents or teachers, there was fear of rejection. My best friend would talk about a new guy every Valentine’s Day and every time she would claim that this time she has actually found her true love. It was that innocent. I saw my friends trying to write love letters to impress someone and they would copy lines from our English literature text books. There was this guy who gave me pretty expensive gifts on Valentine’s Day. I later found that he borrowed the money from his friends and promised them to repay when he gets a job. And we were in class 7 then.
Was celebrating V-Day with all its fervor a taboo at home or were your parents cool with the whole idea?
My mom is my blind supporter so she would never say a word. But I never had the courage to discuss these with my dad. But yes I remember my mom telling me that I need someone who will be super romantic, extra caring and who would pamper me like anything. Of course who would not want that? So I am keeping my fingers crossed!
Most special Valentine’s Day gift till now?
It was a bunch of 50 roses and a very, very impressive love letter. I still have no idea who sent it. But I received that on the 14th Feb morning and it made my day. I still could not find who that person was. I really wish I could.
Given an opportunity to pick a V-Day gift, what would you choose?
I would like to go on a holiday to a beautiful island with that special someone where no one will disturb us and we can have our “we”-time.
Apart from someone you love, anyone else whom you would really like to wish on V-Day, may be an idol or so?
Can’t I choose more than one? There are so many wonderful gentlemen out there. Difficult to choose one!! My the list would surely include Mr Shahrukh Khan, Mr Tom Hanks and Mr Barrack Obama..
If you have to tell a 8 year old as to why people dress up in red on Valentine’s Day, what would be your explanation?
I would say rose is the best flower and the prettiest of all. The color of rose is red. Valentine’s Day means celebrating everything we love. We wear red and give red roses to our loved ones to tell them how much they are loved.
Your plans for Valentine’s Day 2015?
No plans as of now. I am getting many invitations for the v-day special events and parties but I don’t think that I will be able to make it. This is simply because I have a recording in the morning them few meetings. My shoot is going to start next week, so I am busy with that.
If you were given Cupid’s arrow which two people would you target so that they can be brought together as a couple in love?
I wish I could mend the relationship of every couple who are not together right now. I don’t like broken relationships.
Upcoming Film Chitra is also a romantic drama, how far have you gone in love in the film?
My character in the film is a crazy lover. She has done some silly things for the love of her life. From gifting him a coffee mug which had their photos to planning a trip with the family so that they can be together to helping this guy to complete his projects. Chitra shows her love in the sweetest ways.
I myself am too crazy when it comes to showing off my love. I have done some crazy things like sneaking out of my house just to get a glimpse of the person. I believe you have to be extravagant and extraordinary in love. No fun in mediocrity!
Your mantra of successful and lasting relationships…
Be extremely honest and transparent with your partner no matter what. Respect each other. Invest in your relationship. Love your similarities and respect the differences. Don’t take things for granted. Understanding and trust are the binding forces. Its simple- “Stay Real, Stay loyal or Stay Away”
Priyanka Dutta takes a keen interest in lifestyle and entertainment related news. She also enjoys interviewing celebrities and other renowned personalities. Priyanka holds a post graduate degree in English and Mass Communication. Journalism is her passion and she has reported for many a reputed international web portals.